Well said however, we also cannot underline the importance of age here … a 60 year old person no matter what they do cannot be pulling so much people in as compared to under folks in their 20s-30s …. Also when you talk about creating absence I think it works well when you’re trying to lure people in … but if you’re gonna have authentic loving relationships you can’t be creating absence and not be there for other person as a bait for them to want you … as I get older I value loving , kind and people who are equally invested as I’m on them …